I love when life is going well. When there are butterflies and rainbows all around and you just know that your day is going to be great from the moment your feet hit the floor. The truth is, ALL moments cannot be like this. I know, I know, we all wish it were this way. But the truth is- it’s not. There are times when things are NOT great. There are times when life just sucks. I know that’s harsh but it’s true. Today I want to share what it’s like when you’re there and the reality that you WILL be coming out.
Recognize up front that life will not always feel this way but life may always be this way. Does that make sense? If you loose a loved one or have a bodily injury/health issue, life will be that way. If your mom passes, her physical presence is gone. If you are in an accident where you loose a leg, it will never grow back. This is the truth of life. That part of your life will never return, however, that doesn’t mean life always has to FEEL like it does in that moment. The pain will remain in some way but it will decrease. The hurt will begin to disappear and be replaced with memories or new moments to celebrate. This realization is one of the most important ones.
Recognize the divine opportunity to use this. When things aren’t great, it’s easy to stay in that not great place and focus on the negative of all of it. It’s easy to fall into self pity. It’s just our natural human nature and I do it, too. It’s important to realize, though, that despite all the bad that is happening at that moment that good can come out of it if we’re willing to use it. All of us have a unique story in life that can be used to reach out to others. If you’ve been through a difficult time in life at some point in the future someone can and will benefit from what you’re going through. The truth is that God doesn’t ever let a hurt go to waste. His ways are beyond our understanding.
Recognize it’s okay to hurt but have people in your life that love you. It’s okay to hurt. It’s completely natural and a part of the grieving process we all go through. An important part of this process is having people in your life that love and care for you. Whether it be a spouse, a parent, a sibling, a best friend, or someone else, make sure that you have someone that you can love and be loved by. Part of our healing comes from being able to hurt openly with others and the best people for this are usually our loved ones.
Recognize that you will reach the other side. Despite your situation- death of a loved one, a divorce, loss of a job, financial struggles, and more- this will eventually pass. You will come out of the other side better than you went in if you remember this. You CAN come out alive and thriving. You may have battle wounds and scars to show where you’ve been, but they will be a proof of your healing and recovery that once again, God will use.
Recognize that God loves you. This is the most important thing to remember. Despite your hurt, pain, or suffering, God is there comforting you. Despite what you feel, God is there with you and has been there hurting, too. Take this time to choose to grow closer to Him. He will love you and carry you through this situation like no one else can.
Sometimes things aren’t great. Sometimes life just stinks. I pray that as we each go through these valleys in life that we reach the top of the mountain again (sooner rather than later) better than we were before.
What is your best advice for when life’s not great?